Two men walked into church this morning. The first was a well-known and well-liked person. Everyone in the community knew he was a good guy. He always had great answers for everyone’s questions, and he really seemed like one of those people who had it all together.
The second person was a convicted pedophile. Everyone knew about him as well. They knew that he was a registered sex offender, a drunk who sometimes beat his wife and kids, and an all around foul man.
The first man peered over at the second and looked up to Heaven and said in his heart, “God, I thank you that I am not like that man. I am not a pedophile, I don’t get drunk, I don’t beat my wife and kids, and I don’t lose my temper and start screaming obscenities.”
The second man fell to his knees. Tears ran down his face and he whispered, “O God, be merciful to me a sinner.” He was so overwhelmed with grief that he could not even look up toward Heaven. Instead he bowed his head as round after round of tears shook his body.
I tell you the truth, only one man left the church justified before God that day, and it wasn’t the first man. All who humble themselves will be exalted, and all who exalt themselves will be humbled (Luke 18:9-14).
Tears are a gift
To be able to mourn for our sins is a gift from God. The Church Fathers referred to this as the second baptism, which they taught is even more important than the first baptism. This past Sunday was called Repentance Sunday in the Orthodox Church. It is the Sunday in which we are taught to be like the second man in the parable of Jesus which I revised above.
May we humble ourselves before God so that he can heal us and lift us up.
Fr Jeremy, You went too far using the man who was a pedophile. These folks are hardened repeat offenders with the most callous sadistic pathology. They are not ever likely to “shake” with tears of emotion. When you changed scripture,
you inaccurately characterized the penitent and pictured him, the violent woman beating sociopathic child rapist as simply capable of walking into a church and repenting. That is so unrealistic it’s nauseating and insults the reader’s awareness of those who are not open to change, help, or any form of true remorse. Imagine if only once he raped a child, the incredible pain he caused. Thats not a man who suddenly is struck by lighting and a sense of humanity and the reality of God’s grace and forgiveness.
No. Your terrible example is a person who would remove himself from society and consider himself unfit to live with other human beings. He’d be concerned about protecting others from himself.
But that’s highly unlikely. In my opinion Jesus Christ did a far better job with whim? A tax collector?
Sister Deana Marie Burnham OSB
Dear Sister Deana,
There’s a significant difference between “changing” scripture and retelling a scriptural story in a modern way. In the first case, scripture is changed to try to justify immorality or heresy. But the second is an attempt to get people to see the same story in a new way. It’s easy for us to read the Publican and Pharisee parable, pat ourselves on the back, and say, “At least I’m not like that Pharisee.” The point of retelling the story is to help us to stop doing that.
The way I described the repentant man was my attempt to come up with the worst possible person I could imagine – someone that most Christians and non-Christians would loathe. From your comment, it seems I succeeded. This was written in 2013. At that time, there was no attempt to normalize pedophilia like we are starting to see in America today. If I had written this today, I may have done so differently.
Only God knows who is open to change, who can repent and who won’t. It’s best we don’t play God and judge entire categories of people as being lost causes. I agree that pedophiles will likely not be able to change in an instant – most people don’t no matter what their sin is. Perhaps they will have to live cautiously and with a high level of accountability for the rest of their lives. But we shouldn’t write them off as lost causes because we find their sin to be abhorrent.
I do not want to enter into argument, but in the writers defense, people who become pedophiles are usually people who were also molested as children and they never got the help they needed so the devil got ahold of them to repeat the cycle. Yes, what they do is evil and vile, but God loves them too, they are also made in His image and likeness. We have to pray for them, if God can change a murderer like Saul into a man of God like Saint Paul, than He can quite literally change anymore.
The man repented, this means he did not return to his evil ways. Metanoia, his mind was changed.
On January the 28th, we commemorate the Venerable and God-Bearing Father James the Ascetic.
Notably, St. James raped and killed a girl and then threw her body into a river.
He repented, and God showed him mercy. Something we would be hard pressed to do ourselves for such loathsome behavior.
Thankfully there is no sin greater than God’s mercy, or surely we would all be doomed.
“I was once asked by somebody, I don’t remember who, if there was any way sex offenders could be stopped. I said, ‘No.’ I was wrong. I was wrong when I said there was no hope, no peace. There is hope. There is peace. I found both in the Lord, Jesus Christ. Look to the Lord, and you will find peace”. – Westley Allen Dodd
These are the last final words of a convicted pedophile serial rapist and murderer of a small boy. Before his conversion to Christianity, he openly admitted there was not hope for him. He was convinced and felt the best outcome was for him to be put the death. Interviewers were shocked by his honesty and open humiliation about his evil passions that led him to commit such wicked acts. Dodd was convinced he was born for death or to live the rest of his life in a max security prison cell. Dodd understood others hatred for him because of actions. The publicity of his crimes had countless people condemning him. Protesting that death is the only solution and perfect justice for his crimes. While the whole world was hating him, a priest must’ve came to his cell and introduced him to Jesus. How his conversion happened is knowledge I do not know. What I do know is the world was shocked by these least expected words to be his last. He was hung seconds after saying them. Westley thought he was “helping” others by giving in to their hatred and harsh judgments. Subconsciously, Westley was telling the world
“I have sick passions, I’m not proud of them, I hate them, I don’t know how to stop even though I want to, A guiding light in my darkness has never been shown nor has anyone cared enough to show me One, now my sickness is exposed and doctors are too repulsed to help me, how could they or anyone have the compassion to help me? All love is lost, the ugliness of my heart is exposed, I know it’s ugly and sick, I do not hide it, I will expose more of the ugliness that was hidden, If there is a God, He does not love me, God does not love people who are severely sick, Death is what God would want for me.”
Westley did not know who Jesus was. The majority casting judgement and hatred towards him, calling for his death were Christians. The more honest Westley was, the more Humility and exposure of his chains repulsed them. How could he possibly feel that Jesus would love him? His own believers calling for his death while he is showing mercy? I understand for a pedofile or any convicted criminal to come forward like this is extremely rare. And of course not all are honestly sorry. Westley knew they were going to kill him regardless of anything he said or did. He used his death as public testimony of Christs Love to those who are “forgotten.” I’m glad the hopelessness of other Christians did not turn Westley away from the only One who Saves.
Westley knew his last words would make Christians angry, that is not why he said them. Those who understand hope is translational to Jesus is knowledge taught by the Holy Spirit. Only He can teach this revelation to those who believe in Him. A sinner is a sinner, when a sick twisted pedofile repents, Heaven rejoices. Jesus did not come to judge the world, he came to Save it. Let us not discourage the sick in His name. We are all here, slaves to sin, let us all hope in our Father to Save us and love one another.