Tyranny of The Selfish

What is the opposite of rules and authority?  Many of us would be tempted to pick freedom.  But after some reflection, I do not believe that is the case.  The alternative to rule is not freedom but the unconstitutional (and often unconscious) tyranny of the most selfish member, as CS Lewis once pointed out. [1]

Let me provide an example: for several years, I hosted an open spirituality forum at a local pub.  When I began, I had no idea how to moderate discussions, and at times, the conversation would decline into several simultaneous heated arguments.  After a few chaotic meetings, somebody joined us who had decades of experience in facilitating groups and he coached me in how to do so.

I would then bring a Beanie Baby with me and strictly enforce that whoever is holding the little stuffed animal is the one speaking, all others should be listening.  It took a few weeks to break our old habits, but people quickly came to respect my “authority” as the group leader and conversation moderator, and they found that the rules of this new format provided freedom in holding edifying discourse.  Seven years later, this group is still holding discussions. Continue reading Tyranny of The Selfish