I previously blogged what was meant to be a slight critique of The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. It has been one of the more popular posts on this website and I recently received a letter from a reader who was skeptical of Dr. Chapman’s book. My intention never was to throw Dr. Chapman under the bus. Therefore, I thought my response to this reader may help provide a balancing counterpart to my original essay.
You are right about the “give-to-get” mentality that is widespread throughout our entire society. It distorts loving relationships and turns them into something other than what God designed. Despite that, I would actually recommend you follow your therapist’s suggestion of reading The Five Love Languages. But do so with discernment.